10 Things Every Unlimited Woman Absolutely Knows

There are many roles and attributes that describe the unlimited woman. She wears many hats and sometimes finds herself being as much as she can be to everyone. Yes, she strong, sometimes weak, she is hopeful, sometimes a little unsure, and yes she is fearless but at times she lacks a little courage. Regardless, of the  emotions she experiences in life, the unlimited woman is sure of the greatness that she possesses.

She's unlimited not because of her titles, but because of the greatness that she is and is destined for. The unlimited woman is unlimited because she has developed and maintains a mindset and a spirit about herself that carries her gracefully through her journey.

There are specific truths that the Unlimited woman is absolutely sure of as she maneuvers through her journey in life and business.

Her purpose, gifts, and mission in life are non-negotiables because she knows how impactful they are to her family and community.

Here are 10 Truths Unlimited woman believes:

1) She is purposed to lead, nurture, build, and heal others as she is empowered and healed.

2) Despite loss, brokenness, or tragedy, the unlimited woman knows she is an overcome and not designed be a loss. She recognizes that oftentimes pain from these experiences can produce purpose and give way to healing that is greater than the hurt.

3) The unlimited woman recognizes that her greatness is within her, is her gift, and that she is greatness.

4) She knows that her mission is not only for her but for others to assist her in moving her mission forward.
5) The unlimited woman knows that she must be aligned with like-minded, forward thinking, mission driven, community-conscious individuals.

6) She knows that she must balance her hard work and commitment with rest, retreat, & restoration.

7) The unlimited woman knows that her actions, requires goals, which require a plan, which requires accountability, intention, and partners who support her in reaching those goals.

8) She knows that her personal and professional development are ever evolving and that growth is always essential.

9) The unlimited woman doesn't stop at "NO" and doesn't use "I Can't", but she uses challenges as an opportunity to evaluate her strategy, for improvement, and to forge ahead. Purpose is a driving force in her life.

10) The unlimited woman does NOT believe that other women are her enemies, however, she embraces the uniqueness and strengths of other women.

The unlimited woman ultimately embraces all of who she is and the gifts she is blessed with to use in the world. This woman whether she realizes it yet or not is the woman deep down inside of all of us.  She not limited by any thing that seeks to disturb her from her highest level of greatness. The unlimited woman has replaced the the "I Can't" mindset with a "I Can & I Will" mindset. Everything that the unlimited woman sets out to do will teach her something of value. Are you ready to take the limits off of your life?!

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Cassandra N. Vincent is the creator of The Cassie Brown Project and loves to inspire women to live their most liberated lives.

What Happened to our Queens?

A few weeks ago, a guy posted a question on Instagram asking, “What happened to my queens?”  And my response to him was, “They tried too hard to become Kings so that the Kings would pay them attention and mistakenly became Harlots because they saw that the Kings preferred them.”  I call this “The Mirror Effect”.  It’s where a woman mirrors a man’s behavior in hopes that he will then mirror hers in return.  But what us women (yes me included) don’t understand is that while we move on emotion, men move on logic and reason.  If something is working in their favor, they won’t see a reason to change.  Let me give you an example: Man and woman meet, man says to woman, “I don’t want a relationship, I just want friends, maybe even a cut buddy from time to time.” Woman agrees (Mirrors him). Man and woman start hanging out and woman gives man some “cut”.  Woman really starts to like man and starts to do things for man to show him that she is feeling him.  In the back of woman’s mind, she is hoping that man is changing his mind and wanting more just as she has (hopes he mirrors her).  But what woman fails to realize is man is getting what he wants and therefore sees no reason to change.  Now this is not the case in every situation; there have been plenty of healthy relationships where this “practice” has worked in the woman’s favor.   But let me serve as a voice of reason to my ladies; the way to a man’s heart is NOT through YOUR vagina.  Fortunately or unfortunately; however you may look at it, men are wired differently.  Their natural instinct is to procreate that is why they are able to separate sex from their emotions.  IF THEY CHOOSE TO.  We are not conditioned in this regard.  Now I understand that some of the blame should be put on them as well, but it’s time for us women to have accountability for our own actions and stop pointing the finger elsewhere when we have the power to change our lives.  I know some of the blame can go to our fathers for not being there and some to our mothers for not knowing how to give us that paternal love but at some point in our lives, we must take a look at what we are doing to cause the strife in our lives. 

We gotta get back to the days where the men were the pursuers because the women knew their value and wouldn’t allow for anything less.  “(S)he who chooses, holds the power”.  Ladies, we gotta get our power back. We have to understand that we have the power, yes fellas THE POWER; to make a man do ANYTHING we want him to without him laying one finger on our body.  My mother used to always tell me, “Never reveal all your cards to a man up front.”  We must keep an air of mystery ladies, keep them guessing, keep them engaged.  Not being so available.  We need to remove the mirrors from his face and place them in front of our own.  We must get back to making ourselves happy first.  Not compromising our Queendom just to emulate his supreme when his duties as King are different than our own.

I know that our Queens are still out there and I have faith that we can gain our power back and once again reign supreme.

Tiera Gray

Tiera has launched her Love Sex & Baggage movement in hopes to bridge the gap between men and women and help destroy the myths that each sex has in regards to each other. This movement is meant to inspire, intrigue, and provoke all your senses and evoke change in your love life. She has also launched her highly anticipated new web series, “The Amazing Woman’s Guide to Loving Her Single Life” on the Love Sex & Baggage You Tube channel which takes a modern day look at single women today trying to navigate their way through dating.

Her next book, “The Girl in the Uhaul” is scheduled to release August 2016!

To see or hear more of what Tiera Nicole has going on, check her out:
http://www.facebook.com/iamtieranicole
http://www.youtube.com/lovesexbaggage
Instagram- @Iam_TieraNicole

BEAUTY- Do You See it in The Mirror?

They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder but when you look into the mirror, what does it behold for you?  Dove conducted a beauty experiment where women were to describe themselves to a police sketch artist.  The sketch artist was to draw each woman according to their self-description.  The catch was the artist could not see them as they described themselves.  Then the experiment continued when a stranger came in and was instructed to describe to the sketch artist what the woman looked like so that the artist could draw the stranger’s version of the woman.   Once the drawings were complete, the sketch artist showed the side by side sketches of each woman and to their astonishment, every woman’s self-description was a less attractive version of herself and every stranger’s description of each woman was almost 100% accurate as to what the woman they each described looked like.  In fact, the stranger’s description highlighted the attractive and realistic features of the woman they described and the women’s descriptions of themselves were exaggerated and often imaginary.  If beauty is in the eye of the beholder, why was it that these women couldn’t see the beauty that a perfect stranger passing through could?

Dove further concluded that 1 out of every 5 young girls will consider plastic surgery because they are unhappy with the way they look.  According to The American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery (ASAPS), “in 2012 over 10 million cosmetic surgical and non-surgical procedures were performed, 90% (9.1 million) of those procedures were performed on women.”  Furthermore, 19% of those surgeries were performed on women ages 19-34 and 1.3% (3,576) of them were performed on girls 18 and under.

Women have always been very critical and overly aware of their appearance but with the pressures of today’s media and celebrity glam, young girls are feeling even more pressured to be perfect beauty queens.  From obsessive use of makeup, hair extensions, and plastic surgery, girls are trying their hardest to conceal any signs of imperfections in pursuit of their idea of beauty.  It has been discovered that the excessive concern about a perceived physical defect is a somatoform disorder called Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD).  BDD starts to develop in adolescence and early adulthood and is more common in girls. It can be stemmed from mental and physical abuse or emotional distress.  Self-criticism of personal appearance often is the leading trigger for the sufferer to want to “fix” what they perceive to be wrong.  Often times what they perceive as wrong; just as in the Dove beauty experiment, is contrary to what is really there.  In extreme cases, BDD can cause suicidal tendencies.  In fact, the suicide rate in patients with BDD has said to be 45 times higher than in the general population.  This rate is more than double that of those with clinical depression and three times as high as those with bipolar disorder.

Being a woman in today’s society is tough but we must understand that we are all unique and that is the most beautiful thing of all.  At the end of the day, these celebrity women go home and take off their makeup, take off their push up bras, and remove their spanks just like everyone else.  We all have flaws and no one is perfect.  But if we embrace those imperfections and flaws and accept them as true, then they no longer have power over us.  In fact, they become less of a big deal.  So ladies, I challenge you!  Every morning before you put on your “war paint”, stand completely naked in the mirror and say to yourself, “My body is perfect as it is.  I love my face and I am beautiful.”  Don’t worry about whether or not you really believe it, just SAY IT!  And overtime you will start to see a change in how you see yourself.

And if you or anyone you know is suffering from BDD, please get help!

Until next time, Stay true, Stay blessed, and Stay Beautiful

Tiera Gray

Tiera has launched her Love Sex & Baggage movement in hopes to bridge the gap between men and women and help destroy the myths that each sex has in regards to each other. This movement is meant to inspire, intrigue, and provoke all your senses and evoke change in your love life. She has also launched her highly anticipated new web series, “The Amazing Woman’s Guide to Loving Her Single Life” on the Love Sex & Baggage You Tube channel which takes a modern day look at single women today trying to navigate their way through dating.

Her next book, “The Girl in the Uhaul” is scheduled to release August 2016!

To see or hear more of what Tiera Nicole has going on, check her out:
http://www.facebook.com/iamtieranicole
http://www.youtube.com/lovesexbaggage
Instagram- @Iam_TieraNicole

Seven Benefit of Taking a Vacation

Seven Benefits of Taking a Vacation

By Kris Powers | May 19th 2015 originally published at

https://ed4online.com/blog/seven-benefits-taking-vacation

Are you planning on taking vacation time this summer? 

If not, you will be among the 75% of Americans who fail to 

take all the paid vacation they are due each year. In a poll 

of 2,300 workers who get paid vacation, the career website 

Glassdoor found that only 25% of workers said they use 

all their paid days each year and 61% said that they continue

to work even while they’re on vacation.

"Rest, relaxation, and stress reduction are very important for people's well-being and health. 

This can be accomplished through daily activities, such as exercise and meditation, but 

vacation is an important part of this as well," said primary care physician Natasha Withers 

from One Medical Group in New York.

Here are seven ways vacation can be beneficial for you:

Better physical health - The stress of working can take a serious toll on your heart.  The 

American Psychological Association has documented several potentially stress-induced 

health threats, including increased cardiovascular risks.

Improved mental health - U.S. News and World Report reported that experts feel that one 

of the main benefits of vacation time is that it can improve your mental health. Feelings of 

calm arise and relieve the stress, allowing the body and mind to heal.

More productivity - Upon returning from vacation, employees are often refreshed and better 

able to catch up on work they may have missed, according to The New York Times.

Prevent/Cure burn out - According to PBS, employees nearing burnout have depleted their 

cognitive, physical and emotional resources. Vacations can help prevent or even cure 

burnout, which is the last state of chronic stress.

Increased mental power - Everyone needs time to rest their minds. Research by the 

University of California 

Irvine’s Gregory Hickok found that our brains don’t have a reserve pool to gather energy and 

power from. Therefore, it's important to give your mind a break!

Gain newer perspectives - CNN reported that when you take a break and step away from 

the problems and stresses you’re facing, you are bound to gain a new perspective. Perhaps 

you will come back from vacation with answers to issues that have been plaguing you.

Build relationships - Vacations promote bonding among family and friends; we can often 

look back at vacations with great fondness and warmth because of shared moments with 

loved ones. Even memories of the mishaps can bring laughter in future years!

It’s important that we slow down our pace in order to lead healthier lifestyles, including rest 

and relaxation for stress reduction as well as making time for the enjoyment of family and 

friends.

Source: http://national.deseretnews.com/article/2169/7-benefits-of-taking-vacation-time.

html#RCbLCsvrlcAh9GRf.99

- See more at:https://ed4online.com/blog/seven-benefits-takingvacation#sthash.g02kOUdX.dpuf

Walk In Your Own Heels!

Hello my sisters! 

It is officially summer. After the winter we just endured I will dare not complain on these hot days, even though it is tempting. One of the things I am observing the most is the conversations of women discussing their “summer bodies” and doing much comparing. At this time of year it is not uncommon to hear women not only comparing themselves to each other, but also to their former selves. I’m not sure that as women we understand how truly detrimental it is to our self-esteem and self-image to constantly compare ourselves to others. We must evolve to a place where we celebrate our own uniqueness and love the skin that we are in. Instead of trading places with women who appear to have everything we think we want, we must be confident enough to WALK IN OUR OWN HEELS!

In our conversations, as innocent as they seem, where we constantly compare ourselves to others and secretly desire to trade places with them; we are really truly harboring discontentment in our hearts. Discontentment eats away at our peace. It is hard to have peace when we are not content and satisfied with who and where we are. My sincere desire for all of you amazing women of God is to see you not only love God but also love yourselves, His workmanship. When you truly achieve healthy self-love and esteem you no longer desire to be anyone else or walk in their shoes. Instead you enjoy WALKING IN YOUR OWN HEELS.

You are God’s masterpiece! This passage lets us know that God has handcrafted us and we are his marvelous works. Think about it. We are always singing and exclaiming that He does all things well. Do we truly process the fact that we are included in that? We offer Him praise when we honor and appreciate His handiwork. You my sister are his marvelous handiwork! If you desire to be anything else you express to God that what He created wasn’t good enough; and we know everything He does is spectacular.

There is no else like you! Have you really thought about that? For the billions of people that have and will ever live there is not one like you. There is something unique and special you bring to the earth that not one soul can bring but you. When we spend time in the presence of God to discover what it is that makes us unique our self-esteem and self-love automatically increase. There is nothing as fulfilling as discovering what God gave you that He didn’t give anyone else. Once you discover your unique factor, you can continue to enhance your esteem and self-love by cultivating that skill/ability and sharpening what you have. Just like any other type of investment you will find that the more you invest in yourself the more value you will feel.

Your uniqueness will lead you to your purpose! The gifts and abilities that God has given you are a direct indicator to your purpose. Do you want to know why you are here and what you were created to do? Once you spend time in the presence of God and He reveals what makes you unique and your gifts you will find they will lead you right to what He has created you to do. Once you step into that purpose space that was personally designed just for you, you will never again feel the temptation to compare yourself to another sister or even desire to be her because you will be creating a life that you love!

I heard a singer recently say in their song, “I was losing at being you but I’m winning at being me.” That line really got stuck in my head. It is such a strong statement. When we attempt to be like other people we will always be mere copy. But why would we settle for a copy when we are already an original masterpiece of our own. No one can be you like you can so don’t leave that spot unclaimed. 

Enjoy being you my sister. The only person we should compare ourselves to is the person in the mirror and constantly making her better. Don’t desire to be anyone else. Walk confidently in your own heels!

Tiffany Bethea is an Author, Speaker, Mompreneur and founder of Lifestyle Brand She-EO Life. As a licensed minister and marketing consultant she combines personal development and business development to help women leaders master total life harmony and create lucrative business results. She-EO Life = Spirit, Soul, Body and Business Wellness.

www.tiffanybethea.com

@TiffanyLBethea

Tiffany Bethea

Author| Speaker| Mompreneur

7 Courageous Actions to Maximize the Queen in You

WOW!!




We are in the middle of an awesome 2-day tele-summit entitled, "Because I am a Queen" and it is pure awesomeness! Where else can you go as a woman to have every area of your life supported and celebrated and to TRULY get what you need? Heal a Woman to Heal a Nation!!


This tele-summit is for you to come and seek the answers for your next steps in your greatness. Because I Am a Queen offers practical steps and insights for those specific questions you need to ask yourself to become the confident queen you were created to be.


As I listened to all of the powerful information and saw all of the beautiful honesty, truths, and "Aha" moments posted in the Facebook group, I knew that this is definitely a training I will keep in my self development library as a refresher. We all have those moments when we question ourselves and wonder "Why I am doing this?" "Is it really worth it?" "Am I really equipped to do this?" This telesummit addressed how to handle yourself in those moments and to push past all of the negative people and thoughts that come your way. I am going to give you 7 of the Courageous Action Steps that I am holding onto from the first night of the call.  

1) Who are you? Of course you know your name, where you live, your parents, your occupation, etc,etc, but who ARE you? Do you know the essence of your being? Do you know the specific, individual, quirky, unique, amazing things about you that make you you? Do you know what makes you stand out and most importantly, do you own it? 


2) Why are you here? Once you know who you are, you can get clear about what you were created to do. We are each birthed into the world to solve a problem. You are on purpose.

 3) What’s holding you back? Ok, so you know who you are and why you are here, but you haven't taken action. Why? Because momma said it's not realistic? Your boyfriend said it's going to take too much time? Has your husband told you maybe later when you can fit it in the budget? Or maybe you told yourself you wouldn't be a good mother if you pursue it. Whatever "IT" is, recognize it and put some positivity on it. Positivity breeds progression. Allow yourself to honor your commit to your Creator by making a way to do what you are called to do.

4) 2There are 2 mindsets- Fixed and Growth- When you make the commit to move forward in your purpose, know that THAT is the moment when the work begins and it starts in the mind. It's ok. We all have to train those brain muscles to think about something other than math and history. You have to work the "I Can" brain muscle. We often fall into routines of living within boundaries that are set by others. sometimes we set our own unnecessary boundaries based off of what we see in other people. That "fixed" mindset says, "I can't. It won't work. That's not realistic." As we work that brain muscle and challenge it, we can create the "Growth" mindset that says, "I can. I will find a way to make it work because it is realistic." Have the growth mindset to realize there is more and go get it. And remember to build a community around you who support your "Growth mindset."

5) Get clear about what you want. This world is full of opportunity and options. It is completely true that everything is not for everybody. So what is for you? What are those desires of your heart? What motivates you? What keeps you going? Just as you are clear about your purpose and why you are here, get clear about what you want that will keep you here. Those things that bring joy and value to your life, those relationships, that lifestyle, that dream fulfilled, get clear about them and stay focused on them. Remind yourself of your goals, your dreams and your WHY. Great things come your way when you ask for what you want and what you need.  

6) Lift as you climb- I absolutely love this! As you grow, so does your community. The support system around you will get the trickle down of your efforts. There is room for everyone at the top, BUT, they must be willing. Don't be afraid to reach back and pull others up along with you. Know that someone is always waiting for you, and most of them you have never met. 

7) Don’t ask for permission. Give notice. BOOM!!! It doesn't get much realer than that! Stop waiting for someone else to say it's ok to live your purpose. Stop asking if someone will help and simply tell them how they can help. This is your life and your vision. No one else will ever do this thing like you so do it up and play full out!! 

I am so excited about what is in store for Part II of Because I Am a Queen. If you missed it, last night, do yourself a favor and make it a priority to join us tonight, July 22, 2015 at 9p EST. Register at www.hwhn.org and step into your royalty.


You are worth it.!


Kristin M. Young, “The Marriage Enthusiast” is a proud supporter and staff member of Heal a Woman to Heal a Nation, Inc. She is committed to supporting women in their journey to wholeness as individuals and in their marriages.